What comes to mind when you think of sisterhood? Since I have three sisters, from that perspective, my response would be, “It’s complicated”…

We’ve had our share of distance and reconciliations over the years. At this stage in the game, I love and appreciate all those seemingly mundane and insignificant moments that have shaped each unique and individual bond. 

As I reflect on female relationships outside of my siblings, it has taken me some time to land in a place where sisterhood feels comfortable and natural.

In my preteen/teen years, I felt unseen and awkward around peers, and my perception was that I didn’t “fit” in and struggled to find true friendships. Most likely a direct result of my avoidant attachment style. Yeah, it was interesting.

It looked something like this: from the outside, I’m the new girl in the school, a badass who doesn’t need anyone. And on the inside, I’m lonely and scared to connect because chances are I’ll be at a new school next year and never see you again anyway.  

Unfortunately, remnants of this dynamic stayed with me well into my 30s and 40s. I experienced only a few close bonds, and although I cherish them to this day, healing these wounds has opened up a whole new world of connection and support that I previously didn’t know was possible.

So what did it take to get to a place where I can have healthy, securely attached relationships?

It has required me to deepen my self-awareness, self-compassion and release self-judgment. Are you getting the picture here? Deepening relationships with others could only happen as I accepted, allowed, and embraced the parts of me that felt out of alignment with the desire to be loved for who I am. 

The path to receiving love from others is to love oneself.

YES, this also works in romantic relationships, LOL!!

It took me a while, but I realized I could no longer hide behind a shield of fear; I had to risk being vulnerable and trusting that as I showed up for others, they would show up for me.

In my self-healing, I discovered the power of trust, companionship, and how freaking amazing it feels to celebrate, encourage, inspire, and be inspired by other strong, compassionate, and loving women.  

As in all life’s challenges, untangling what we are not magically revealing to us what we are at our core, beings of light and love who are meant to coexist in relationship with one another, uplifting and celebrating the hell of ourselves all the way! 

I invite you to come dip your toe in a little community I’ve created with loads of acceptance and connection at my next CBQ Session on July 17th.

Let love flow!

Bobbi